How Happy Are You?
Where to find boundless bliss.
Published: September 8, 2012
The path to inner peace and healing.
At one of my recent workshops on the Law of Attraction, one participant piped up, “It’s easy for you to say that we attract what we need; you are successful and you have enough money, but that’s not the case for all of us!”
I smiled and replied, “You are absolutely right, it is easy for me to say, but not for the reasons you mention. Success is not what you think it is. The fact that I have 300 people in the room and you believe I make more money than you is not a measure of my success.
The fact is that I attracted this group here, yes, but the question is: was it the result of luck, smart marketing or science? What I want you to believe is that a science is behind it. This science is made up of two parts: Inner and Outer. The Inner part is how I feel about myself. Do I consider myself worthy enough? Do I feel happy about what I am doing? Do I feel that by doing what I am doing I am giving something of value to the participants? The Outer is the marketing, the brochures and the website.
I might be able to fool a lot of people with just the Outer part, but they would never come back and would leave dissatisfied with the workshop, if my Inner work did not match their expectations. When my Inner matches my Outer and both are aligned in positive energy, my success will increase and be consistent.
In the end it is not about money, it is about being happy being you. If what you have is not what you want, then you have to do everything you can to change so you will attract more of what you want. And then you keep doing that, changing your strategies until you have manifested what you want.
I am willing to do what is necessary. Are you? If the answer is yes, I can teach you how. The end result is always the ultimate success: being happy with who you are, where you are and what you have, and who you share it with.”
The workshop participant looked at me and said simply, “Thank you!”
We all have one thing in common: we want to be happy. Happiness can mean a roof over your head, enough to eat, healthy children or a happy relationship. Some people seek a higher form of happiness, sometimes known as “bliss.” Bliss is what I refer to as the highest expression of happiness.
In order to reach a state of bliss and maintain this, we need to distinguish between three levels of happiness.
Level 1: Competitive Happiness
This we see in sport, business, war, games, gambling, school, etc. We feel happy when we win and are ahead of others. This form of happiness is always transient, however, and may sooner or later turn against us. Some people get stuck at this level and can become very unhappy and destructive when they lose.
Level 2: Conditional Happiness
This kind of happiness can be seen when we are very happy when we are young, strong, good-looking and full of energy, and become depressed when the symptoms of old age set in. We are happy when a child is born and become unhappy when that child turns into a hyperactive, uncontrollable brat or gets to puberty and rebels against us. When we fall in love everything is fantastic, until a few years later when we are more critical. Conditional happiness never lasts and sooner or later we discover that things were not as we thought they were and we become unhappy with what we have.
Level 3: Unconditional Happiness
With this level of happiness, we need no outside stimulus to feel happy or at peace.
We have accepted the fact that we are fallible mortal human beings, we accept and welcome change, death and suffering. We are comfortable with both discomfort and pleasure, and are not attached to outcomes, but enjoy the process of experiencing life to its fullest. We are grateful for all the blessings and experiences that we have along the way and we are at peace with ourselves and others. We also understand that we are one with the universe. We are, most of the time, in the turbulence-free zone that I call the still-point.
Bliss is the silence of perfection, which is the spectrum of all there is, like sunlight containing all colors. When we are in still-point we feel inner peace, harmony and love, and we know that all is good as it is, even if it is not what we want. Finding your still-point is about connecting to the Divine Essence in you and around you.
My definition of God is bound to be limited, so in order to make this as boundless and unlimited as possible, God must be “all”: all there is, all there ever was and all that will ever be. This is what we constantly forget and neglect by disengaging from our Divine Essence. The main reason we forget who we really are is that we focus on our five senses, which are very limited. Our reality is a projection created by our limited senses. Because we grow up in a world where people are not aware of who they really are, we also start to believe that limitations, pain, disease and suffering are normal. Most people are unaware of their potential and keep creating patterns in their lives that indicate that they are disconnected from their inner source of power. Knowledge is passed on from generation to generation – and this becomes the greatest limitation of all.
To achieve the wisdom needed to find unconditional happiness, we need to liberate ourselves from the many limiting beliefs we have grown up with. Only then can we circumvent our projected reality and get a sense of all there is.
Roy Martina is a world-renowned doctor with more than 30 years’ experience in Holistic Natural Medicine and expertise in a diverse range of therapies. A bestselling author, trainer and speaker.