What Do You Want to Attract?
The key to happy relationships.
Published: December 2, 2011
In loving memory of Jerry Hicks.
We just learned of the passing of our sweet and beloved Hay House author Jerry Hicks. Jerry maintained his unfaltering zest for life until the day he passed on Friday, November 18, 2011.
Known for co-authoring numerous New York Times best-selling books and audio programs on the teachings of Abraham® with his wife of 30 years Esther, Jerry devoted his life to sharing Abraham’s solutions to real-life challenges and helping others to use this wisdom to joyously manifest all they desire.
We offer this powerful excerpt from Esther and Jerry’s book, The Vortex below as a tribute to this fun-loving, joy-filled and inspiring mentor whose passion was to help others find their true Source through the wisdom of Abraham. Jerry’s passionate and joyous spirit will live on in our hearts and we will miss him dearly.
A conversation with Abraham about looking for love:
Jerry: And so, what would you say to young people who are just out of school, beginning their lives, seeking their first mate or between mates? How would you guide them regarding their relationships?
Abraham: First, we would remind them that nothing is more important than that they feel good, because unless they feel good, they are not in alignment with all that they have become, and anything less than that alignment will always feel lacking.
Next we would encourage the continual setting of an intention to find good-feeling subjects to focus upon, and if a not-good-feeling subject should be activated within them for any reason, to do their best to distract themselves from that by looking for relief by focusing upon a better-feeling subject.
For example, let us say that you observe an unpleasant relationship in progress, and you hear the negative conversation of this unhappy couple. Your desire for harmony, and even your more specific desire for a harmonious relationship, causes your involvement (by your listening) in this unpleasant experience. The negative emotion that you would be feeling is your indicator that this focus is not helpful to you. If you have in place an active intention to feel good, you would easily move yourself out of earshot of this conversation. You would deliberately turn your attention to other, good-feeling objects of attention.
We would remind them that creating occurs from the inside out. In other words, the thoughts you think and the way you feel are at the center of what you attract. Rather than looking for things outside of you that cause you to feel better, it is much easier to decide to feel better first and then attract, from the outside, things that do.
We would encourage a time of focusing upon what is wanted before jumping into any action. When you take action as you focus upon what you do not want, you only get more of what you do not want. But if you take the time to focus upon what you do want before you take the action, then the action that is inspired will enhance your desire.
We would also advise them:
- As you move through your day into the variety of changing segments that make it up, stop often and restate to yourself your intention to feel good and to stay in alignment with your Inner Being or Source.
- Let your desire to feel good be the dominant intention that is present no matter what else is occurring in that segment. And remind yourself, often, that it is up to you to make that Connection and to feel good, and that no other person has a responsibility or the ability to make that important Connection for you.
- Look to your relationships with others as a way of enhancing the alignment you have already achieved, but not as a means of accomplishing the alignment.
- Independently, by your own focus with Source, reach the consistent place of loving yourself. Do not ask others to love you first. They cannot.
The dominance of your thoughts is what brings everything to you and is what is behind the action that you offer. By seeking good-feeling thoughts that align you with your Source—your action will then always feel good. You cannot muster enough action to compensate for misaligned thought, but action that is inspired from aligned thought is always pleasurable action.
Relationships, and the List of Positive Aspects Process
Whether you are currently without the relationship that you desire or in the middle of a relationship that does not please you, there is nothing that you could do that would be of greater value in moving you in the direction of the relationship that you want than to take a notebook and spend time every day writing the positive aspects of the people in your life.
Make lists of positive aspects about the people around you, the people from your past, and yourself. And, in a very short period of time, you can demonstrate to yourself the power of your aligned thought and the cooperative nature of the Law of Attraction. By releasing all effort toward the futile control of the behavior of others and, instead, focusing the power of your positive thoughts, you will find the delicious relationships that you have been dreaming about.
You are the thinking, Vibrating attractor of your experience; and the thoughts you think determine everything about the life that you live. As you turn your attention toward the positive aspects of the personalities and behaviors of others with whom you share your planet, you will train your point of attraction in the direction of only what you desire.
The relationships that you desire are not only possible, not merely probable—they are certain. But you must train the frequency of your thought-Vibration into alignment with those desired relationships if you are to experience them in the tactile, physical, “real life” ways that you desire. Not only does the power of your thought determine which people make their way into your life, but the power of your thought determines how they behave once they get there.
Esther Hicks is an inspirational speaker and author. She co-authored eight books with her husband, Jerry Hicks. Together, they have presented Law of Attraction workshops for Abraham-Hicks Publications in up to 60 cities per year since 1987. Visit: www.Abraham-Hicks.com.