Power Up Your Words
How to rewrite your story.
Published: December 29, 2011
by Jorge Cruise
What you say is what you get.
Learn to use words of empowerment. If you say something enough, you believe it. If you believe something enough, it often comes true. No, I’m not talking about lottery jackpots here, but rather about how your beliefs have a huge impact on your destiny. If you believe you can’t do it, then you’re right, you can’t. It doesn’t matter what you eat or how much you exercise because “I can’t do it” is the most consistent self-fulfilling prophecy in the world.
I talk to people all the time who tell me, “I just can’t do it. If I could lose ten pounds, then maybe I’d believe that I could do it. Please tell me what to do to lose those ten pounds!” This really puts the cart before the horse; with such an attitude, I guarantee that those individuals won’t lose the ten pounds they’ve come to believe are the key to their future happiness and health. I won’t make even one food recommendation to a client until I can get him or her to say “I can do it.” Surprisingly, just getting someone to say those words (even without believing them) can be like pulling teeth!
I want you to use words of empowerment to begin shaping your belief system to be more nurturing of your goals. You can do so by simply being your own “cheerleader,” even if a lot of what you say feels like you’re just pretending at first. Your power words and phrases can be anything you like, spoken in front of a mirror or not, but always said out loud.
Here are some suggestions:
I love you.
I can do this.
Wow, you look great!
This is the time I win.
I am beautiful.
I am loved.
Louise Hay, author of the landmark self-help book You Can Heal Your Life, developed a great forgiveness exercise that I often share with my clients: every morning when you wake up, look in the mirror, and forgive aloud parts of your body that give you anxiety.
Here is an example that came from one of my own clients:
“Good morning, hips. I love you. I forgive you for not looking like the hips I see on magazine covers. You probably wouldn’t be very happy if you looked like that anyway. I still love you, hips. You are beautiful, hips. I’ll always forgive you.”
It took at least 30 minutes—and a lot of pleading, tough love, and crying—to get this particular woman to face her hips and forgive something she thought had tortured her for decades. The release of that forgiveness was phenomenal.
The bottom line when it comes to power words is this: even if you don’t start out believing the things you say, you will. Keep saying that you can do it, and you can. Say that you are beautiful, and you will be. The same is true of negative words and phrases. It can be hard to stop beating yourself up after so long, but believing in yourself and using positive words and phrases to rewrite the story of your life is absolutely more important than knowing what to eat.
Jorge Cruise is the author of 4 consecutive New York Times best-selling series, with more than 5 million books in print in over 15 languages.