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12 Ways To Love Yourself Unconditionally

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12 Ways To Love Yourself Unconditionally

Use These Tips When Practicing Mirror Work
Louise Hay
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Mar 22, 2016 at 11:45 AM

Just like my video course, Loving Yourself, my Mirror Work book lays out a 21-day program of teachings and exercises to help readers deepen their relationship with themselves and live a joyous and fulfilling life. Doing mirror work is one of the most loving gifts you can give yourself.

“Today is devoted to thanking life for
all its many gifts and learning how to live
with an attitude of gratitude every day.”

1. Stop All Criticism

Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.

“Break the habit of
judgment and self-criticism, and to go
beyond the need to put yourself down."


2. Forgive Yourself

Let the past go. You did the best you could at the time, with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge that you had. Now you are growing and changing, and you will live life differently.

“Forgiving yourself and
those who have hurt you, opens
your heart to a new level of loving yourself.”

3. Don’t Scare Yourself

Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure and immediately switch a scary thought to a pleasant thought.

“Defuse the power fear has over you
and trust that life is taking care of you."

4. Be Gentle And Kind And Patient

Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would treat anyone you really love.

5. Be Kind To Your Mind

Self-hatred is hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change the thoughts to more life-affirming ones.

6. Praise Yourself

Criticism breaks down your inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.

7. Support Yourself

Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.

8. Be Loving To Your Negatives

Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. Lovingly release the old, negative patterns.

9. Take Care Of Your Body

Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need in order to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise do you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in. 

10. Have Fun!

Remember the things that gave you joy as a child and incorporate them into your life now. Find a way to have fun with everything you do. Let yourself express the joy of living. Smile. Laugh. Rejoice, and the Universe rejoices with you!

“The power of positivity can
change everything for the better.”

11. Love Yourself . . . Do It Now

Don’t wait until you get well or lose weight or get a new job or find a new relationship. Begin loving yourself now—and do the best you can.

“How you start your morning 
can determine your experiences"

12. Do Your Mirror Work

Look into your eyes often. Express the growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents while looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once.

“Through mirror work, you discover that
you are perfect just as you are and that loving
yourself can heal every problem.”

Loving Yourself, MIRROR WORK  lays out a 21-day program of teachings and exercises to help you deepen your relationship with yourself and live a joyous and fulfilling life. Each of the 21 days is organized around a theme, such as monitoring self-talk, overcoming fear, releasing anger, healing relationships, forgiving self and others, receiving prosperity, and living stress-free. 

I would love to hear what you think is your most powerful affirmation, or your experience using Mirror Work. Please let me know below. 

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Louise Hay
Louise Hay Louise Hay was an inspirational teacher who educated millions since the 1984 publication of her bestseller You Can Heal Your Life, which has more than 50 mill Continue reading