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3 Angelic Tools For Finding True Love

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3 Angelic Tools For Finding True Love

Gerry Gavin Channels The Angel Margaret
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Feb 04, 2016 at 11:15 AM

Gerry Gavin is the Author of the soon to be released “If You Could Talk to an Angel” and “Messages from Margaret.”  He hosts a weekly radio show on Hay House Radio, where he channels the angel Margaret, bringing down-to-earth angelic advice to the world. Today she brings life changing advice to the readers of 

Hello Dear Ones and Welcome,

This month I would like to speak about love – since February is, after all, a month that is devoted to all things related to matters of the heart. 

Emotions are the current that are created by the Heart Center of your human form – and all are related to your feeling in sync and accepted with those around you (love) or out of sync and wary of those around you (fear).  Love and fear are the energetic polarity of each other and the reason both exist is that you cannot create energetic movement without having a polar opposite to complete the current.  And you can’t appreciate the value of one emotion without first understanding the other one.

It is my hope that you are entering this month feeling loved, but if you are feeling that your heart center is somewhat out of sync, then I would like to help you to take a look at why you might perceive relationships as you do. When you look at emotions from the angelic point of view there is no such thing as failure – there is only your evolutional growth -  acknowledge each emotion and then if necessary, redirect them back towards LOVE.

Now that may seem easier said than done – sometimes emotions can seem quite overwhelming – but when you have some simple tools to know how to redirect your relationship emotions – then no matter what the emotional situation you are faced with – LOVE can always be the answer!

Love Tool # 1:  Realize that “That was Then – and This is Now!”

Do you know that your brain creates and records how you will remember things, for almost all of your emotions, by the time you are seven years old?  It is true! By that age you have likely experienced love, removal of love, separation, friendship, loneliness, anger, rage (think terrible two’s) bliss, jealousy, appreciation, gratitude, ingratitude and more! Your brain records your feelings about these situations in your cellular memory. All of your memories are saved in cells of memory throughout your body.  

Once the first memory is recorded, in order for you to be able to process emotions more quickly as you grow older, your brain decides your emotional response to a new situation by assigning it an emotional response from your already created memories. Have you ever encountered an adult who behaves like they are seven (or less), or has anyone ever said this of you?  This method of recording memory based on the original interpretation is why!  Humans tend to respond to emotional stimuli much like they did when they were seven years old or less. 

But changing this pattern is so very easy and it can begin with saying, out loud, six simple words: that was then – this is now!  When you say this phrase out loud (not just in your head) you activate the vibration of your throat chakra to create sound. That sound creates a physical vibration that intensifies the thought.  It is thought converted to a physical vibration. The phrase sends a clear instruction to your brain to identify if the current emotion is coming from past experiences – or if this is a new experience.  It will immediately remove anxiety (an unexplained nervousness) and give your brain the opportunity to see if this as a new experience that should be given a new assessment. Most of your daily anxiety actually comes from your brain labeling new experiences with old emotional meanings. 

Imagine how much this would help you in potential new relationships! You can allow yourself to process your emotions as an adult and not call up the emotions of old injuries to new relationships – thus giving love the opportunity to rise above the emotional energy of old fears.

Love Tool # 2:  When Navigating for Love, You Need to Know Where You Are Going First 

Many of you use navigation systems as you drive about in your vehicles. You simply put in an address, or the name of a place, and the navigation system creates coordinates to help you to get just where you want to go. It can even refine your search to avoid highways, or bridges, or toll roads. You can get there in the fastest time or the shortest distance and you can even request a detour when your path is blocked by unexpected obstacles.  Navigating for love can be the same!  Most people however program the journey with very different information – they actually back-load it!  

For example, based on past relationships you decide and focus first on the things that you wish to avoid (those things that DO NOT make you happy) in this potential relationship – such as not wanting someone who isn’t: spiritual; or a good listener; or a good dresser; or financially secure or many other avoidances that you enter into the love navigation attraction system.  Once you decide on what you don’t want and have entered all of the avoidances – you decide on whether the person who can fit these avoidances will be someone who is a short distance from you, or if you are open to a long distance relationship. 

All of this information can help you to know where you don’t want to go – but where do you want to go in this search for Love?  The thing about finding love is that it isn’t something that you navigate towards. It is something that navigates towards you – based on the signal that you are sending out – by the things you are focusing on.  So when you focus on the things you wish to avoid – such as potential mates with no money, no car, no future – it is a very good possibility that, since all that wording is programmed into your sub-conscious navigation, you will attract that to you!  

The key to getting to where you want to go is that you are the driver, recognize first that you want to get somewhere new (remember: that was then – and this is now), the second most powerful thing you can do is to remember that every navigation system starts by programming clear coordinates for your home base.  In other words – make sure that you are clear about who you are and what you want before you start your journey.  Many people go from relationship to relationship being whomever the other person would like them to be so that they will be loved. This happens so often that sometimes it’s hard to remember who you even are!  

When Gerry does soul retrieval or coaching, we recommend that you break your life into five year increments and identify the things from each period that brought you personal joy. We suggest that you look up the top songs, movies, food and TV shows from those years to see the ones that instantly bring you a feeling or memory of happiness – for that indicates your joy – and not the joy you got from making someone else happy.  Put that information together and it will help you to get a picture of yourself (ie: you may love ice-pops and Star Wars and the Grateful Dead and History and Board Games etc.)  

When you start to get a clear sense of you then navigate from that HOME place to seek someone who will love and appreciate you and the things you love – while helping you to open up to the things they love as well.  Don’t even focus on avoidances, or detours, or shorter distance or the time involved to get there.  Just program what brings you joy and create the Afformation – Why Is It so Easy for me, to draw to me, someone who will magnify my joy as much as I magnify theirs!   The laws of energetic attraction, and some angelic assistance, will take care of the rest!

Love Tool # 3:  Remember Your Early Attraction! 

But what if you are already in a relationship that has seemingly lost its luster? What can you do to help to re-kindle the fire?  I would advise you to use the same mantra as in Tool #1 – “That was then- this is now,” but here I will suggest that you use it in two ways.  In the first way I would encourage you to begin each day anew – with the Afformation of “Why is it so easy for my (husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend etc.) to fall in love with me again and me with him/her!”  

When I say to start anew, I mean to let the resentments of the past fall aside with the same phrase as in Tool #1.  If the toilet seat was left up – try not to incorporate it into being a part of litany of things that your partner has done wrong.  Nothing can lead a conversation into the hurts of the past faster than the words “you always” or “here we go again!”  Instead, focus on trying to remember what it was that caused you to fall in love in the very beginning. When a couple starts dating they are fascinated with the other one.  In fact the things the other may do, that are now upsetting affronts to respecting you, actually began many times as adorable character traits.  But over time, couples forget those things that brought them together.

If this is a time filled with stress and disconnection, then it might be a good time to go back to how it was in the beginning and take some time to remember the wonderful things you used to see in the other that caused you to want to be a couple.  Arrange date nights; revisit some of the places that you used to love; take time for a romantic weekend get-away or simply put on some music from that time and listen to it while sharing a favorite snack from that time. When you do this you are choosing love over anger and resentment and no matter what, LOVE truly will help you to find a way to navigate back to itself and to make the love of then – the love of now!

Happy Valentine's Day Dear Ones!


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Gerry Gavin is a speaker, life coach, medium, and creator of the very successful Angels and Shamans workshop, which puts participants in direct communication with their angels and guides. He has worked as a communication and empowerment specialist Continue reading