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5 Ways to Reach the Top of Your Game And Stay There

What Are You Settling For?
Talayah Stovall
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Jun 11, 2014 at 06:45 AM

Last year, I took a friend out for a birthday celebration and we got into a debate about which was better, lobster or crab. I readily admitted that although I like crab legs better, I’d ordered the lobster because it was easier to eat. I didn’t feel like putting in the work to crack open the crab legs. That got me thinking. How many things are we settling for in our lives because they are easier to obtain than what we really want for ourselves?

Are we staying in a career that doesn’t allow us to fully use our gifts because of fear or lack of motivation? Are we settling for unfulfilling relationships because we don’t want to put in the work it takes to create and/or maintain a strong one? Is it easier to just accept what is available rather than wait for what is the best fit? Are we allowing weight or health issues to remain because we don’t want to put in the effort to exercise and/or prepare healthy meals? I was cooking the other day (happens every now and then) and decided to try my hand at some new dishes. I put a lot of effort into those unfamiliar dishes, and they came out pretty tasty. The one thing that I didn’t give much attention to was a dish that I was used to cooking. And guess what? The familiar dish was the worst one. That showed me that we can’t take the routine things in our lives for granted. We have to put our best effort into everything that we want to turn out well.

Substandard effort yields substandard results. Are there any areas of your life where you’re not playing full out? Is it your health? Your finances? Your career or business? Your relationships? Are you settling for less than you want or deserve in any area of your life? There is no time like the present to create new habits that will get us where we really want to be in life instead of settling for less. Once those habits are created, we can put systems in place to support them.

Here Are 5 Steps For Reaching The Top of Your Game

  1. Embrace your “why.” Think about what motivates and drives you. What are you passionate about? What do you do better than anyone else you know? Your passion is always tied to your purpose, your “why.” Figure out what you really want, what makes you feel fulfilled, and what feels natural to you. If you don’t know what you want, anything will do. What do you really want in your career or business, your relationships, your health, your finances, your spirituality? You can even have smaller “whys” for minor goals—if your motivation is to lose two pounds this week, will that chocolate bar on the table really serve that purpose?
  2. Know your value and purpose. We are each born with specific gifts and abilities, along with a unique personality and thinking style that determines how we are wired. When we lack understanding of our unique value and try to struggle to be like someone else, we become frustrated and unhappy. It is only when we allow our passion and purpose to drive our actions that we find fulfillment in our life and work. We don’t have to compare ourselves to anyone else; we just have to be the best at who we already are.
  3. Stop waiting for the perfect time. I don’t know about you, but I’ve never seen “Someday” written on a calendar. Get busy now! As the saying goes, “Nothing works unless you do.” It’s time to play a bigger game. The human anatomy was not designed to straddle a fence. It hurts. Get off the fence and go after your big dream. It doesn’t have to be perfect; it just has to get done. You can make it better later.
  4. Be willing to do the work. Life is hard, and nothing of value is ever handed to us. Pain and discomfort are part of the process. I recently heard someone say that we shouldn’t feel entitled to anything we didn’t sweat and struggle for. The struggle is what builds muscle. Whatever it is that you truly want—a job, a business, a relationship, a svelte figure, money in the bank—you have to work for it. The same rules apply in every area of life. Push past the fear, stop using the distractions as excuses, and roll up your sleeves.
  5. Get some support. Utilize books and courses that will motivate you and help you to expand your knowledge base. Build your team. You don’t have to do it alone. You can get a coach, a mentor, or an accountability partner, or you can even form a Mastermind group of people who you trust. Surround yourself with people who will give you honest, relevant feedback (I stress relevant, because not everyone is qualified to speak to your situation). Others can see things in your situation that you might not see and can provide valuable insight that can move you along your desired path more quickly. Be sure to also add people to your network who are already where you want to be. It will force you to play a bigger game. And remember to reach back to those whom you can help.

Go for your goals, and don’t settle for second best. Next time, I’ll have the crab legs.

About Author
Talayah Stovall
Talayah G. Stovall is an author, speaker, trainer and certified life purpose coach. Through her keynotes, workshops, coaching, newsletter, and radio show, Talayah empowers people to use their passion to live their purpose and achieve their p Continue reading