6 Ways To Focus Your Attention And Be Happier
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6 Ways To Focus Your Attention And Be HappierBecome Fully Engaged And Improve The Quality Of Your Life
The questions that follow are designed to illuminate your ability to manage your attention as you notice what you pay attention to, how you pay attention, and the quality of your attention.
I include this questionnaire in my book, The Power Of Attention.
Read through each question and either use them as journal prompts or simply reflect upon them as you go about your day. This inquiry will reveal to you the way you use the currency of your attention.
Ask Yourself These Questions
1. Do I give enough attention to the people, activities, and things that are important to me?
2. How does someone or something respond when I give him/her/it my undivided attention? How do they respond when I am distracted in his/her/its presence? (You might be too distracted to notice!)
3. Do I pay attention to and listen to my inner knowing?
4. How do I feel physically - and where in my body do I feel it - when I judge, feel spiteful, or have ill will toward a particular person or situation?
5. How do I feel - and where in my body do I feel it - when I offer loving and supportive attention to a family member, a friend, or a stranger?
6. How do I feel - and where in my body do I feel it - when someone ignores me, disregards my requests, or is generally not present when they're with me?
7. How do I feel - and where in my body do I feel it - when I am truly being paid attention to?
8. Do I often multitask or am I able to sustain an uninterrupted continuum of attention?
9. What external stimulus most distracts me? (My phone? My relationship? The people or objects in my environment?)
10. What internal stimulus distracts me? (My obsessions? My daydreams? My grudges? My limiting beliefs? Body sensations?)
11. How long can I engage and be present with someone without looking at an electronic device?
12. Do I feel a sense of rushing even when there are no deadlines and nowhere to go?
With this inquiry, you'll be more conscious of how you want to spend this valuable currency of attention.
You might get frustrated as you see that you live in a world full of distractions and potential addictions. And, yes, the contemporary culture seems to encourage the half-hearted way some of us attend to the world around us.
By noticing what distracts and detours you, you can begin to create some boundaries around them to reclaim your focus.
Here are some tips to reclaim your attention:
1. Set Your Priorities
Make a commitment to give your attention to what matters to you, whether it's your body, your relationships, your creativity, your work, your family, your pets, your plants, your spiritual life, or your environment. The ability to fully engage in a relationship with others and attend to yourself is expressed in your ability to listen, to love, to connect, and to respond in compassionate and meaningful ways.
2. Practice Fully Engaging In A Conversation
Mindfully listen and stay connected as the person in front of you speaks. Don't interrupt, or assume. Simply be present. When you respond, speak mindfully and with your full attention.
3. Get To Know Your Body
Listen with the same loving attention you offer to others. Ask yourself, "How do I feel when I focus on this?" the "this" in this case can be anything: a goal, a memroy, a co-worker, your family, your pet,a prject, social media, a problme at work, nature, a television show, a news article, or any activity you are engaged in. Choose to focus more on that which nourishes you.
4. Go Analog
Stop sleeping with your phone. Instead, use a clock or watch. Don't start the day in emergency mode. Create a relaxing morning routine, one where you can be present and calm. This will establish a restful response as you embark on your day.
Whether a few hours a day, or one day a week, unplug from your devices and social media. Create boundaries around what distracts you. Make time to be completely available to your three dimensional reality. Uninterrupted time is when creativity and inspiration can arise and your real-life relationships can flourish.
6. Get A Dose Of Nature
Research shows that a 20-minute walk can improve attentional issues. The natural world is a conduit for connecting to reality. It brings you to your senses and can charm your attention. This gives your brain a break from endless to-do lists and habitual thinking patterns that keep you distracted.
You can reclaim and increase the power of your attention and pay full attention, on purpose, to whom and what you choose.
Harnessing your ability to pay attention will restore the relational space between you and who and what you focus on.
Your attention is powerful, and you can be in charge of it when you set your mind to it.