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Are You a Turned-On Woman?

Let life get you in the mood!
Dr. Christiane Northrup
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Oct 08, 2009 at 10:00 AM

When you start living your life as a totally alive, turned-on woman, an amazing thing happens: Not only does this bring you an amazing amount of pleasure and happiness, but you also start having a positive effect on everyone else around you. In fact, your joyful outlook becomes positively contagious!

The effect is similar to what happens when you’re in a good mood. You’ve probably often seen how your upbeat mood can put a smile on someone else’s face, but the effect I’m talking about here is much deeper and more powerful than just spreading a few smiles.

When you commit to discovering, nurturing and then living your true passion, it’s as if you’re stoking a fire in your soul. Others then see you not only being confident and comfortable in your own skin, but also celebrating yourself and reaching for joy at every turn. As a result, you will inspire them to do the same. So eventually, they, too, begin making healthier choices that nurture their bodies, minds, and spirits.

But that’s just the start. Instead of merely being an example—as powerful as that can be—why not become a source of pleasure for others as well? You’ll quickly see that this takes relatively little effort on your part, and it can be a great deal of fun.

For example, compliment others more often when they do something right. So many of us are used to getting feedback only when we do something wrong or displease someone else. Why not let people know that you appreciate what they’ve done right then and there? Remember the saying “An attitude of gratitude creates a space for grace”—there’s a lot of wisdom in that statement!

I’m also a big believer in “drive-by” compliments. If I see a woman in public whose outfit, hairstyle, or jewelry is particularly striking, I let her know with a quick but genuine compliment. I do the same for men and children, too. When you behave in this way, what you’re really doing is starting a chain of positive emotion. The individual you compliment will most likely be genuinely touched—especially if it’s someone you don’t know who isn’t expecting it. And then that person will feel better about him-or herself and will be in a better mind-set to keep the joy circulating.

The more pleasure you spread to others, the more you will feel yourself, and the more joyous and healthier the world around you will become. This works because of the Law of Attraction, which states that whatever you pay attention to expands. So, by spending time focusing on joy and pleasure, you’re simply calling more of it to you—and to everyone else you come in contact with, as well. In a very short time, you’ll start to see beauty in many forms and opportunities for pleasure wherever you go.

The idea of being a source of pleasure for others isn’t limited to compliments and other quick, positive comments. You can actually use joy to help transform the world. Remember the old adage “If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy”? The opposite is also true: When women are happy, everyone around them automatically feels uplifted, too. It’s as if a wave of loving-kindness goes out from them and affects every living thing on the planet.

By virtue of our biology, women are the main source of nurturing in the world. We nurture everyone around us—not just our kids. It’s in our DNA. So, then, can you imagine the difference it would make being nurtured by a woman who’s fully alive and turned on by life, versus a woman who’s just making it through the day? Women who have blossomed in midlife actually feed life force to everyone they come into contact with, whether or not they realize it.

That’s why when women take the time and effort to be truly supportive of other women, the effect is so gratifying. Haven’t you experienced the incredibly uplifting power of being in a group of female friends? By the time the get-together is over, you almost always feel infinitely better than you did when you arrived, and you can’t wait to spend time with each other again. It’s no coincidence.

The world needs more beauty and light right now. The health of the planet depends upon our own happiness, joy and pleasure to help raise the collective life force for all beings. Giving and receiving pleasure is a way of life that helps everyone and everything. So get going! The only thing you have to lose by following your bliss is your suffering—and that is worth celebrating.

This information is not intended to treat, diagnose, cure, or prevent any disease. All material in this article is provided for educational purposes only. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you have regarding a medical condition, and before undertaking any diet, exercise, or other health program.

About Author
Dr. Christiane Northrup
Christiane Northrup, M.D., is a visionary pioneer and the world’s leading authority in the field of women’s health and wellness. A board-certified OB/GYN physician who graduated from Dartmouth Medical School and did her residency at Tufts New Engl Continue reading