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Are You Having A Spiritual Awakening Or A Spiritual Temper Tantrum?

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Are You Having A Spiritual Awakening Or A Spiritual Temper Tantrum?

Action Steps When Your Soul Temperature Is Rising
Elisa Romeo
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Mar 18, 2015 at 11:15 AM

In my new book Meet Your Soul, I share my methods for connecting with the oldest, wisest, and most loving part of yourself. Here’s some advice for handling those moments of intense emotion when the universe seems to be out to get us:

When we experience a Divine shit storm or spin out in emotion, we often feel like the world is against us, and at these times many of us will throw a spiritual temper tantrum (STT). Part of being human is the struggle under the weighty existential question of free will versus fate. We want to feel our power and independence, our ability to shape our existence, but we also want to trust that life supports, nourishes, and sustains us. Because of family conditioning, personality, and life circumstances, some of us are more prone to getting trapped in “why me?” stories than others.

When we are caught in an STT, we feel that God has forgotten us. The universe appears evil, manipulative, and purposeless. Life feels heavy, pointless, and unjust. We identify as Sisyphus, the character in Greek mythology doomed to push a boulder up a mountain for all of eternity. When we are having an STT we are fully immersed in the victim archetype. “Life is doing this to me. I have no say, no control, and no escape from the haphazard wheel of fortune that has dealt me a living, hellish nightmare.” STTs can go on for days, weeks, years, or, for some, a lifetime or lifetimes.

Yet, when we are in STTs, we are actually closest to our Souls. The reactivity and emotion we feel so strongly in these states is because part of us is well aware that there is another way. In fact, we can feel the other way, and that is why we are having such a reaction. We, consciously or unconsciously, feel the potential for life—the potential for Love to split us wide open. We just don’t think we are capable of finding the calm eye in the center of the spiritual storm. We sit, paralyzed, unsure how we are going to get through this life test.

The good news is that you do not need to have the answers to “how.” You don’t need to know how you will trust or how exactly you will reconnect to your Soul. During an STT all you need to do is identify that you are having an STT and remember that there is another way. You ask your Soul Her opinion on the STT: Why do You think I am having it? Is there a cosmic purpose for what I am going through? What Soul Lesson am I learning? What are two basic steps I can take today to begin to shift this heavy energy? What loving self-care thing can I do to start to feel better? What will bring me a little bit of relief?

Anytime we are caught in an STT, it is because we either cannot hear or are resisting the information from our Soul. There is nothing that She gives us that we can’t handle if we are in relationship with Her and with the “why” of it. We need to talk to Her for the “how” of it as well. How do we handle our feelings? What should we do? We need details. Go ahead and ask Her.

For boiling water to turn to steam, the temperature needs to get hot enough. If we continue to lift the lid to check the temperature of the water, we are going to have to wait longer than if we
hold tight and keep the lid on. If we can endure and understand during an STT that our Soul temperature is rising for the necessary process of alchemical transformation, we can have more patience for the process.

Stopping an STT in Its Tracks

Next time you begin to spiritually boil, remember: We don’t need to know how we will trust or how we will reconnect to our Souls. During an STT, all we need to do is identify that we are having one, and then remember that there is another way. If you are in an STT, ask your Soul Her opinion on the STT. Some questions for inquiry are the following:

• Why do You think I am having it?
• Is there a cosmic purpose for what I am going through?
• What Soul Lesson am I learning?
• What are the most common ways I react when I am having an STT (overeating, avoidance, addictive relationships, . . . )? Am I doing any of that now?

After you are done inquiring about your STT, ask your Soul the following:

• What are two basic steps I can take today to begin to shift this heavy energy?
• What loving self-care thing can I do to start to feel better?
• What will bring me a little bit of relief?

Choose one of your small, measurable action steps toward relief and think of a small reward to motivate you, which you will give to yourself (a bath, a walk, . . . ) after you complete it. Follow through on your plan. To learn more, see my book Meet Your SoulYou can also try the audio meditations I created on my website to help you connect with your soul now. 

About Author
Elisa Romeo
Elisa Romeo is an intuitive, a licensed marriage and family therapist, an author, and a speaker. Her worldwide private practice consists of thousands of clients, who she works with by merging a background in depth psychology with an ability to dir Continue reading