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Are You Too Busy to Live a Fulfilling Life?

Examine the excuses that are keeping you stuck.
Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
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Oct 12, 2013 at 10:00 AM

I INVITED VISITORS TO MY WEB SITE to e-mail me their excuses for not living at the highest levels. In essence, I was interested in the excuses they have used in their lives. “I’m too busy” easily topped the list.

If you’re overextended, know that you’ve chosen to be in this position. All of the activities of your life, including those that take up huge portions of your time, are simply the result of the choices you make. If your family responsibilities are problematic, you’ve opted to prioritize your life in this way. If your calendar is crammed, you’ve decided to live with a full schedule. If there are way too many small details that only you can handle, then this, again, is a choice you’ve made.

Surely, one of the major purposes of life is to be happy. If you’re using the excuse that you’re too busy to be happy, you’ve made a choice to be busy, and in the process, you’ve copped out on living your life on purpose. If you’ve substituted being busy for actively and happily fulfilling your destiny, you need to reexamine your priorities. Here is my mentor, Thoreau, on unexamined priorities: Most men (or women) are engaged in business the greater part of their lives, because the soul abhors a vacuum, and they have not discovered any continuous employment for man’s noblest faculties.

Don’t let your soul languish in an unfulfilled vacuum. Instead, begin to examine just how you prioritize your life. All the details that occupy it keep you from a destiny that you’re aware wants your attention. Contemplate these encouraging ideas to counter the “I’m too busy” excuse:

  • I know that I’m not a bad parent if I don’t arrange my life to be available to chauffeur the children every day until they’re adults.
  • I’m allowed to say no to requests that keep me from having time to pursue my life purpose.
  • There’s no such thing as “a place for everything and everything in its place.”
  • There’s no right way to do anything.
  • I can have it my way because there are no absolute universal rules.

It isn’t my purpose to delineate all of the ways in which you can unload this excuse category. Practicing delegating, getting others to help out, and taking time for yourself are all possibilities as well. Henry David Thoreau is right when he says that there are nobler faculties you need to pay attention to, in addition to all of those other details that occupy your life. If you fear the part of your soul that’s calling you to a higher place, then you’ll probably continue to haul out this particular excuse.

Change this pattern by never saying or implying that you’re too busy. Just drop it, and replace it with the following affirmation: I intend to take time for myself to live the life that I came here to live, and to do it without ignoring my responsibilities as a parent, spouse, or employee.

Learn to recognize the excuses that keep us from living our dreams and begin to practice the Excuses Begone! paradigm that can set us free.

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Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Wayne Dyer, Ph.D. Affectionately called the “father of motivation” by his fans, Dr. Wayne W. Dyer was an internationally renowned author, speaker, and pio Continue reading