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Attract Love into Your Life

How your thoughts affect others and can draw love and blessings to you.
Pam  Grout
Oct 14, 2013 at 10:00 AM

In 1972, at the annual convention of the American Association for the Advancement of Science, a meteorologist named Edward Lorenz introduced a brand-new term into the American vernacular.  The butterfly effect was his observation that an event as seemingly insignificant as the flapping of a butterfly’s wings in Brazil could set off a hurricane in Texas. In other words, small, almost imperceptible things can have large and momentous consequences.

The cool thing about this experiment is that you can use it to draw love into your life. You can use it to brighten the world. When you generate uplifting thoughts about someone, it contributes favorably to his or her energy. Conversely, when you judge others, even if you keep it to yourself, you affect their energy and weigh down the quality of your interactions. You can literally uplift your world by lasering love, blessings, peace, and other high-frequency emotions to the people in your life. 

As it says in A Course of Miracles, “You are being blessed by every beneficent thought of any of your brothers anywhere.”

 There’s a story about a protester who was outside the Military School of America, taking a silent stand against the policies of the United States and its bullying behavior. Someone asked him, “What makes you think holding that little candle is going to have any effect on these governments? They’ve been doing what they do for decades now.” He replied, “I’m not worried about changing them. I don’t want my country to change me.” Your thoughts about other people change you. Is it really possible in this us-versus-them world that we, as the spiritual principle states, are really one? 

 Well, to be blunt—yeah. We’re all in this together. And every time we judge or think anything less than charitable about anyone, we crucify ourselves. We inflict self-pain. Our differences, as huge as we make them out to be, are superficial and meaningless. And it’s time we let them go.

When you meet anyone, remember that it is a holy encounter. As you see him you will see yourself. As you treat him you will treat yourself. As you think of him you will think of yourself.

You can change your relationship with anyone by simply sending them good thoughts.

 My friend, whom I’ll call Ginger, had a rocky relationship with her mother for years. Finally, she decided that every night before falling asleep she would send her mom blessings. Her mom, of course, had no idea she was doing this. To this day, Ginger has never told her mother that for about six months, she spent a few minutes each evening envisioning her getting all the things she ever wanted and seeing herself being happy about it. 

“I honestly don’t know how it happened, but our relationship changed. Now, we’re the best of friends,” Ginger says.

 Best-selling author Martha Beck was once like most of us: friendly enough, trusting enough, but not about to go overboard. After all, she was a scientist, a Harvard-pedigreed sociologist who needed facts to form any kind of conclusion. And the conclusion she came to, the same one most all of us come to on planet Earth, is that people are okay, but you don’t want to get too involved. Especially not if you’re at Harvard and trying to get your second graduate degree, so it is probably best to keep people at arm’s length.

 As she describes it in her wonderful book Expecting Adam, “We go around like Queen Elizabeth, bless her heart, clutching our dowdy little accessories, avoiding the slightest hint of impropriety, never showing our real feelings or touching anyone else except through glove leather.”

But life pulled a fast one on Martha Beck. It gave her a son with Down syndrome (Adam) who taught her that everything she thought she understood about the world is a big ruse. When she was pregnant with Adam, her husband, also a Harvard graduate student, traveled to Asia a lot, and she was left at home to cope with her demanding studies, their two-year-old, and a pregnancy that was not going well. Fires, potential miscarriages, and ongoing pregnancy ailments drove her to wit’s end.

As she says, “I felt like a load of gravel had been dumped on me.”

But every time she was about to snap, an angel (and I don’t mean that term metaphorically) would deliver kind words or some other assistance she needed. Keep in mind that this is a woman who had to be on the edge of desperation; you’d think it would be hard for anything positive to get through. She had long ago eschewed any notion of God and was sworn by education to follow “the good old Baconian logic of refusing to believe anything until it was proven true.”

 Nonetheless, a woman she barely knew showed up on her doorstep with groceries one morning when she was about to pass out, an unseen force appeared out of nowhere to guide her and her daughter through her smoke-filled apartment before it burned to the ground, and she was able to see and talk to her husband even though he was in Hong Kong and she was in Boston. And, no, I don’t mean by telephone.

 What she came to realize is: “Against all odds, despite everything that works against it on this unpleasant, uncomfortable planet, mothering is here in abundance. You can always find it, if you’re smart enough and know where to look.” Even if you aren’t smart enough, it tends to show up—especially if you really need it.

Says Beck: “I have to jettison every sorrow, every terror, every misconception, every lie that stands between my conscious mind and what I know in my heart to be true. . . . I have expanded my reality from a string of solid facts, as narrow, strong, and cold as a razor’s edge, to a wild chaos of possibility.”


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Pam  Grout
Pam Grout is the author of 16 books, three plays, a television series, and two iPhone apps. She writes for People magazine,, Huffington Post, and her travel blog, Find out more about Pam and Continue reading