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Celebrate Yourself!

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Celebrate Yourself!

Accepting the amazing woman within you.
Cheryl  Saban Ph.D.
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Dec 02, 2009 at 09:00 AM

What comes to mind when someone suggests that you “celebrate yourself”? Does your interior voice reply snidely, Yeah, sure, as soon as I pick up the dry cleaning, grab the kids from day care, and make dinner, I’ll throw myself a party. Does the idea of focusing on numero uno sound overly narcissistic? Perhaps celebrating yourself is so far down on your to-do list that it barely gets noticed except on your birthday.

The idea I’m proposing here obviously isn’t necessarily about parties per se (although such festivities are certainly worthy and enjoyable)—it has more to do with embracing, accepting, and expressing yourself. Think of it this way: your celebration of you is actually the ability to see yourself as being whole; it’s the gratifying exercise of acknowledging your full potential.

When you can appreciate yourself as a complete, irrevocably worthwhile person, you’ve arrived. You’ve figured out how to navigate the expectations, restrictions, and limitations of a cultural vision that seeks to prescribe roles or definitions of what a woman is supposed to be; and despite those expectations, you’ve found your own niche. And that achievement, my friend, is definitely cause for celebration, because so many women struggle with the notion of loving themselves as they are.

Appreciating yourself—acknowledging your contributions and being comfortable with who you are—requires you to admit your sense of efficacy, or your ability to produce a desired effect. Personal power stems from the knowledge that you’re worthwhile, effective, and vital; and that you can change your life. This mind-set is what drives you to achieve; to grow; to advocate, and, ultimately, to give back to a society that desperately needs your input.

You need to have a sense of personal power (that is, personal intention) to thrive and survive. This has nothing to do with brute force—that’s another concept entirely, and not one that you were genetically wired for. Your testosterone levels are generally too low for that. No matter…you have other skills, and lots of other hormones.

Your true strength as a woman is much more cerebral than physical. If you remember the Star Wars movies and the concept of “the Force,” you’ll recall that Luke Skywalker was told he needed to find the Force within himself. Yoda never doubted that it was there, but Luke wasn’t so sure. In the end, when Luke trusted himself, his inner power prevailed. I’m happy to be your Yoda and your Obi-Wan Kenobi. I don’t doubt that your Force exists—I know it does, and I join you in celebrating it.

Tap into your inner strength. Assess your life, goals, values, and self-worth. Challenge yourself to take on whatever life throws at you, and then become more resilient by having faith and trust in yourself. And then you’ll feel like celebrating who you are, not just on your birthday, but every day.

Try the following:

  • Think about the things you’re passionate about—your desires, likes, wishes, and talents—and write down your top five.
  • Enlarge your vision of life—look beyond your usual vantage point to cultivate an awareness that there are other perspectives worth seeing.
  • Take responsibility for the life you’re living; that is, the life you’ve created. Decide to be happy and do the things that make you happy.
  • Balance your work with play, which is something that women and men of all ages need.
  • Strengthen your body’s automatic healing system by getting enough rest and exercise, as well as by eating a healthy diet.
  • Prevent illness by caring for your physical and mental health.
  • Give back by volunteering your time, talents, and/or treasure.
About Author
Cheryl  Saban Ph.D.
Cheryl Saban, Ph.D., writes extensively about women, children, and social issues. Using her background in psychology, she devotes a great deal of attention to philanthropic endeavors that focus on pediatric health and research, education, relationshi Continue reading