How To Release A Caged Heart
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How To Release A Caged HeartAnswering The Call of Freedom
In Pursuit of Dreams: Claim Your Power, Follow Your Heart, and Fulfill Your Destiny, I discuss taking ownership in setting your heart free. Everyone deserves to make their dreams a reality. And, it starts by answering our heart’s calling.
Many years ago, my grandfather used to ask me to water the flowers. I took the hose and ran my fingers through the rushing water, while my grandpa told me this parable.
He told me, “Love flows through you, just as water runs through the hose you’re holding. God needs you to pour his love in the world, and people need his love. When you block the flow, you cover or suppress the calling of God in your heart.”
The key is to know when you think and act opposite to Truth by blocking the flow of love that runs through you. The pressure builds up. If you do this for years, it blows up!
You feel a mix a of emotions – anger if expressed outward, depression if expressed inward. Then, it is only a matter of time before your body fails you. If your body fails you, only imagine what can happen to your heart?
The only thing you need to do is remove the blocks in your mind and express yourself in love.
Set love free, and you become free.
You’ll know it’s love when it brings the following:
- A force that pulls you to follow your dreams
- A revealing or expression of yourself
- An exploration
- A discovery
- A creation
- A bond
Ancient spiritual teachers spoke the truth when they said our task is not to find love, but merely to remove all blocks we have built against it. This all starts with your mind.
Your will flows through your heart, and pulls you toward what you truly value in life. When you embrace it, you find meaning. When you block it, you find pain. You can choose one or the other—but you can’t have both.
Whenever your behaviors conflict with your will, whenever you think and act against Truth, tension grows within yourself. Strain turns into pain. Anger, anxiety, and depression follow with certainty, as darkness follows the sunset.
This is why Jesus said that the kingdom divided against itself will be destroyed, and the house divided against itself will fall (Mark 3:24–25).
Mind against heart, and behavior against will—it will break you.
For an example, I have a friend who is project manager for a financial corporation. However, her dream is to open a restaurant. Her spirit is willing to start this new business. Every time she thinks about her calling, her heart fills with joy. She feels love flowing through her.
But in an instant, her mind drags her in the opposite direction:
- What if it doesn’t work?
- I am in my thirties, and I have a child – What will my parents say about me quitting my job after they supported me through college?
Even though she doesn’t want to, she then acts as she thinks she should. She stays in her job without the true will to do so.
Everyone envies her. She earns a great paycheck, has a loving husband and a beautiful child, but she’s sinking into depression. She feels even worse when she looks around her because she has no apparent reason to feel depressed:
Her heart is screaming from a golden cage, and she doesn’t listen.
The greater the gap between what love calls you to do and what you actually do, the deeper the depression you can fall into.
The way to find joy is to leave the cage, not to decorate it and make it prettier.
Why do you think the waiting rooms of psychologists and psychiatrists are filled with successful people who realized after twenty or thirty years of work that money, a career, a house in the suburbs do not bring peace of mind and joy of heart?
They keep hoping that by changing the external conditions of their lives—earn more money, be in better physical shape, have another partner, or travel more—it will change how they feel.
It never works because the emptiness is not around them. The emptiness is within them. The only way to come back to life is to acknowledge and follow the voice arising from your heart, calling you to return to love, to return to Truth.
An old proverb states that if you follow your heart in life, you will not have regrets. You will be defeated, you will suffer, but you will not have regrets.
All of us are familiar with the pain and suffering of having a dream and not knowing how to make it a reality. But pain and suffering are not the same. They are opposite to each other.
Here’s how to notice the difference:
Pain shows up every time you deny, ignore, or rationalize away the Truth: You want to work with children, but you don’t. You want to become a writer, but you don’t. You want to start your own business, but you don’t. What your heart calls you to do, but you don’t, creates pain. Pain is unbearable because Truth is denied, and lies are made real in your mind. Excuses create pain because you are not using your mind to think how you can fulfill your will, but rather to make real the reasons why your love should be ignored and Truth rejected. Pain leads to anxiety, anger, and depression, which in turn lead to drinking, drug abuse, or violence.
These are desperate attempts to take your pain away, but they never work because Truth cannot be denied and the flow of love cannot be blocked.
When you begin lying to yourself about who you are, when you repress your dreams and ignore what is important to you, when the mask becomes the person and the person forgets the person and becomes the mask, you become your own worst enemy.
You are attacking yourself from within, and there’s nobody there to protect you. Your life becomes a shadow drama, and you become a crippled version of yourself.
But, suffering is so different.
Suffering will show up and trials will come, but they will be nothing more than setbacks and knocks that you’ll get along the way. Viktor Frankl once wrote in Man’s Search for Meaning, “Man’s main concern is not to gain pleasure or to avoid pain but rather to see a meaning in his life. That is why man is even ready to suffer, on the condition, to be sure, that his suffering has a meaning.”
Suffering comes in a battle that has meaning to you, and is worth fighting. Pain comes by turning away from what is meaningful to you.
At the end of the journey, pain will bring regret, but suffering will bring joy.
We all have a natural gift, a dream that calls us to return to love. Very few actually have the circumstances and the social environment to nurture that gift. We have to make them. We must make them.
The longer you live a comfortable lie, the farther you drift from your purpose, and the harder it will be to gather the courage to go back to your heart.
Embrace the Truth. Stand in power. Return to love. Set the caged heart free.