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How To Stop Playing The Blame Game And Take Back Control Of Your Life

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How To Stop Playing The Blame Game And Take Back Control Of Your Life

Why Labeling Yourself As A Stereotype Will Hold You Back
Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
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Jul 19, 2016 at 10:15 AM

Make an effort to remove all labels that you've placed on yourself. Labels serve to negate you. 

You must ultimately live up to the label rather than being the limitless spirit that is your true essence.

You're not an American, an Italian, or an African. You're a member of one race, the human race.

You're not a male or a female, a Democrat or a Republican. You are one with the true oneness, God.

You are not athletic or magical, mathematical or literary, or any other label. Transcending labels, particularly those that have been placed on you by others in your past, opens you to the opportunity or soaring in the now in any way that you desire.

You can be all things at any present moment in your life.

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I recommend that you find a way to transform your personal history and remind yourself as you do that you're transforming any and all beliefs that you've used as labels or indicators of your limitations. Replace all that with a knowing that you're not what you've done, what you've been, how others have taught you, or what has been done to you. 

You're a part of the beloved, connected always to your source, and therefore connected to the unlimited power of the beloved.

Your past history and all of your hurts are no longer here in your physical reality. Don't allow them to be here in your mind, muddying your present moments.

Your life is like a play with several acts. Some of the characters who enter have short roles to play, others much larger. Some are villains and others are good guys. But all of them are necessary, otherwise they wouldn't be in the play. Embrace them all, and move on to the next act.

Give Up Your Personal History

When a speedboat zooms across the surface of the water, there's a white foamy froth behind it that's called the wake of the boat. The wake is nothing more than the trail that's left behind. The answer to, "What is driving the boat?" is that the boat moves because of present moment energy generated by the engine. This is what makes the boat move forward across the water.

Do you think it is possible for the wake to drive the boat? Can the trail that's left behind make a boat go forward? I'm sure you agree that the wake is only the trail left behind, and it's not what drives the boat forward. The wake of your life is nothing more than a trail that's left behind you. Thought of in this way, it's absolutely impossible for that wake to drive you forward. The wake is not in any logical way responsible for what you're experiencing or failing to experience today. The wake is just what it is, and nothing more - a trail that you've left behind. 

But have you?

It's my experience that most people live their life in the wake by hanging on to personal histories to justify their self-defeating behaviors, and the scarcity in their lives. They hang onto past pains, abuses, and shortcomings as calling cards to announce a "poor me" status to everyone they meet, within minutes of their introduction. "I was abandoned as a child," "I'm an alcoholic," "I'm an incest survivor," "My parents were divorced and I've never gotten over it." The list goes on...

Your past is over! By bonding to your past, you not only ensure that you'll be immobilized today, but you prevent yourself from healing. By referring to past struggles and using them as reasons for not getting on with your life today, you're doing the equivalent of attributing to the wake the ability to drive the boat.

In a universe that's an intelligent system with a divine creative force supporting it, there simply can be no accidents. As tough as it is to acknowledge, you had to go through what you went through in order to get to where you are today, and the evidence is that you did. Every spiritual advance that you will make in your life will very likely be preceded by some kind of fall or seeming disaster.

Embrace them, with help if you need it, and then understand them, honor them, and finally retire and/or transform them in your own way.

Become free to immerse yourself in this moment - the now that's called the present- because it's simply that - a present to open, relish, nurture, play with, and enjoy and explore.

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Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Wayne Dyer, Ph.D. Affectionately called the “father of motivation” by his fans, Dr. Wayne W. Dyer was an internationally renowned author, speaker, and pio Continue reading