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Is Your Life a Merry-Go-Round?

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Is Your Life a Merry-Go-Round?

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David R. Hamilton Ph.D.
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Jan 30, 2012 at 09:00 AM

There are many patterns and cycles that play out in our lives, and we rarely notice them, but if we do pay attention to them, they can tell us a lot about ourselves. They can even lead us to new horizons of self-understanding, making it easier to transform our lives in whatever way we choose.

Because of the natural vibratory nature of reality, natural cycles (and those created by others and by society) act like a cyclic wind upon us, sometimes playing us like a musical instrument, just as we might take cyclic breaths to play a flute. And so the tune we play is oscillatory. In the same way, the information content of our minds is met by these cycles and so the tune of our life experiences is of cyclic events that repeat themselves until we change the information in our minds.

If you take some time to examine your life, you might notice that your personal history is full of cycles. Do you tend to stay in a particular place or job for a short time and then move on, for instance? Is that a normal pattern for you? Or do you find that the same issue or challenge keeps cropping up in your life at different times and in different places?

If you pay close attention to the persistent patterns in your life, you will be able to see what it is that your thoughts, beliefs, and behavior are aligning with. If you are aligning with a particular pattern, then the ‘reality’ of that pattern will persist in your experience for as long as you are aligned with it in your thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and actions – for as long as you continue to exchange information with it.

For instance, if you were bullied in the past and this was a result of your thoughts, fears, or beliefs, then as long as you hold the same ideas in your mind, you align yourself with the fractal pattern of bullying that exists in human experience. And so you might continue to experience bullying in one way or another, in varying guises, at school or college, with bosses at work, with authority figures, even with your partners.

Robert E. Quinn, professor of business and management at the University of Michigan offers some simple advice for breaking out of cycles. He says we should change our emotions: “You repeat the same things over and over again, causing everything to get worse. You get caught up in a vicious cycle. If you change the emotion, you change the opportunity structure; you do something new. You start to move into a virtuous cycle that picks you up.”

We can change our emotions by becoming fully aware of how we are feeling. With awareness, we don’t get caught up in the situation, but are consciously aware that what we are feeling is an emotion. And in this way, we are no longer gripped by the feeling but are able to observe it, and ourselves, instead. This gives us the power to do something different – to break out of the cycle.

In many ways, an awareness of your own patterns not only gives you an idea of the types of situations you might face in the future, but it can empower you to change yourself for the better. If it is a cycle that you don’t want, then you can take some action to change it. You can do this by stepping back and observing yourself and then changing your mind, changing what you tell yourself, changing what you do, or even changing aspects of your environment. With awareness, and through different thoughts and actions, you can align yourself with something different – maybe a new movement or an empowering idea. And when you do this, your reality changes.

It’s important to become aware of the contents of your own mind. If you have a goal, for instance, try looking at how you think about it, or the emotions you feel. You might realize that you’re not giving as much attention to the stuff that you really want in life as you thought, but are giving plenty of attention to what you don’t want. You are giving more attention to your goal’s absence, in other words – to the situation you don’t actually want to be in.

As a rule, we complain about stuff and talk about it with other people. But this behavior merely feeds the pattern that gave rise to it. We align with the patterns that we give our attention to, so when we give too much attention to stuff that’s not in harmony with where we want to go, we move ourselves in that direction. And the chances are that we will repeat the pattern until we change, or until something gives, which can often be our health, especially if the pattern causes us stress. So it’s very important to be mindful of ourselves.

About Author
David R. Hamilton Ph.D.
David R. Hamilton acquired an honors degree in biological and medicinal chemistry, and a Ph.D. in organic chemistry before working as a scientist in the pharmaceutical industry for several years. His research into the mind-body connection ultimate Continue reading