How Do You Forgive Yourself and Others with Affirmations?
You can never be free of bitterness as long as you continue to think unforgiving thoughts. How can you be happy in this moment if you continue to choose to be angry and resentful? Thoughts of bitterness can’t create joy. No matter how justified you feel you are, no matter what “they” did, if you insist on holding on to the past, then you will never be free. Forgiving yourself and others will release you from the prison of the past.
When you feel that you’re stuck in some situation, or when your affirmations aren’t working, it usually means that there’s more forgiveness work to be done. When you don’t flow freely with life in the present moment, it usually means that you’re holding on to a past moment. It can be regret, sadness, hurt, fear, guilt, blame, anger, resentment, or sometimes even a desire for revenge.
Each one of these states comes from a space of unforgiveness, a refusal to let go and come in to the present moment. Only in the present moment can you create your future.
If you’re holding on to the past, you can’t be in the present. It’s only in this “now” moment that your thoughts and words are powerful. So you really don’t want to waste your current thoughts by continuing to create your future from the garbage of the past.
How Forgiveness Affirmations Work
When you blame another, you give your own power away because you’re placing the responsibility for your feelings on someone else. People in your life may behave in ways that trigger uncomfortable responses in you. However, they didn’t get into your mind and create the buttons that have been pushed. Taking responsibility for your own feelings and reactions is mastering your “ability to respond.” In other words, you learn to consciously choose rather than simply react.
Learning how to forgive yourself and others is a tricky and confusing concept for many people, but know that there’s a difference between forgiveness and acceptance. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean that you condone their behavior! The act of forgiveness takes place in your own mind. It really has nothing to do with the other person. The reality of true forgiveness lies in setting yourself free from the pain. It’s simply an act of releasing yourself from the negative energy that you’ve chosen to hold on to. Also, forgiving yourself or others for past mistakes doesn’t mean allowing the painful behaviors or actions of another to continue in your life. Sometimes forgiveness means letting go: You forgive that person and then you release them. Taking a stand and setting healthy boundaries is often the most loving thing you can do—not only for yourself, but for the other person as well.
No matter what your reasons are for having bitter, unforgiving feelings, you can go beyond them. You have a choice. You can choose to stay stuck and resentful, or you can do yourself a favor by willingly forgiving what happened in the past; letting it go; and then moving on to create a joyous, fulfilling life. You have the freedom to make your life anything you want it to be because you have freedom of choice.
Affirmations For Forgiveness
• The door to my heart opens inward. I move through forgiveness to love.
• Today I listen to my feelings, and I am gentle with myself. I know that all of my feelings are my friends.
• The past is over, so it has no power now. The thoughts of this moment create my future.
• It is no fun being a victim. I refuse to be helpless anymore. I claim my own power.
• I give myself the gift of freedom from the past, and move with joy into the now.
• I am ready to be healed. I am willing to forgive. All is well.
• When I make a mistake, I realize that it is only part of the learning process.
• I move beyond forgiveness to understanding, and I have compassion for all.
• I know that old, negative patterns no longer limit me. I let them go with ease.
• I am forgiving, loving, gentle, and kind, and I know that Life loves me.
• As I forgive myself, it becomes easier to forgive others.
• I love and accept my family members exactly as they are right now.
• I forgive myself for not being perfect. I am living the very best way I know how.
• It is now safe for me to release all of my childhood traumas and move into love.
• I know that I cannot take responsibility for other people. We are all under the law of our own consciousness.
• I return to the basics of life: forgiveness, courage, gratitude, love, and humor.
• I forgive everyone in my past for all perceived wrongs. I release them with love.
-Excerpted from The Power Is Within You by Louise L. Hay. Copyright © 1991 (Hay House).
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