An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots; they hung on opposite ends of a pole, which she carried across the back of her neck. One of the pots had a crack in it, while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water. At the end of a long walk from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full. For a full two years this went on daily, with the woman’s bringing home only one and a half pots of water.

Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection and miserable that it could only do half of what it had been made to do. After two years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to the woman one day by the stream.

“I am ashamed of myself because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house.”

The old woman smiled, “Did you notice that there are flowers on your side of the path, but none on the side of the other pot? Because I have always known about your flaw, I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you water them. For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table. Without your being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house.”

Each of us has a unique flaw. But it’s the particular cracks and flaws that each one of us brings that make our lives together so interesting and rewarding. Like puzzle pieces that fit just so, our edges and curves help us form a bond that would not have been possible otherwise. When you take all people from what they are, it is easier to find the good in each one’s singularity.

Wabi Sabi Principle:¹

Wabi Sabi Love takes an open heart and an open mind to receive your partner’s deep level of care, even if it looks different from what you would expect.

References

1. Wabi Sabi is an ancient Japanese art form that finds beauty and perfection in imperfection.